Racism in the dating game
If he hadnt called you a racist, he would have probably called you a lesbian.You have a right to your own personal preferences, but I do have to say to you ladies, dont knock it till you've tried it, LOL! What It Really Means: I want to know what kind of minority you are.Give me your ancestral lineage dating back three millennia, please. I'm a piece of crap that feels entitled to knowing everything about you. I accept whatever answer you chose to share with me as specific enough and will now volunteer where I'm from in order to have a two-sided conversation about hometowns." Ultimately, the problem with these lines is that they refuse to see women as nuanced people and generalize any "otherness" as some monolith of experience. Of these, nearly half selected Asians, but fewer than 7% did for black women. In October, [Ok Cupid.com], 80% of whose members choose to input their race, studied the messaging patterns of more than a million users and concluded on its official blog that “racism is alive and well.” … Or is overlooking an entire ethnicity as innocuous as filtering out redheads or people under a certain height?Minorities who prefer to date within their own race or ethnicity — and who look for potential mates on niche sites like Black People and — would probably agree with her.So dating is our last refuge of overt racism because …preferring people based on race isn’t racism if its for dating, especially if minorities do it?! The obvious reason to allow mate racism is that people better enjoy mating when they better like their mates, and people think they care about the race of their mates.
While I’ve personally dated women across the racial spectrum, I’ve only had a handful of clients who ever expressed preferences for women of other races.But this same reason suggests allowing racism by firms, schools, and clubs.Firms are full of people, including employees, customers, suppliers, and investors, any of which might care about the race of folks they must deal, mingle, associate, etc. At schools, the teachers, students, and ultimate employers of those students may also care about race. “The researchers realize that their results can be depressing, but they also agree with the many readers who caution against reading too much into the preferences of online daters and speed daters. I married a black man, who I am now (17 years later) divorcing, but the point is that I think the world is FULL of potential, why limit yourself?Yes, these daters clearly discriminate by race and height and looks and other superficial qualities, but they also temper these biases once they get to know one another.” People who are terribly picky in choosing partners online will relax their standards if they spend just three or four minutes talking to someone at a speed dating session.
Here’s how much less interested they were in the other races, as compared with their enthusiasm for men of their own race: Click here to read the whole article: Update: But wait, there’s some “good news” from those same researchers.